After about 2 weeks of continuous potty training regime at her school/day care and home, Naomi finally got the hang of it. One evening last week, she came home from day care and asked me to bring her to the toilet for peeing (xuxu) and when she was in the toilet, I let her sit in the toilet seat and she just did her business there. From then on, everything was easy.
Contrary to some popular potty training tips that are often published in the internet, our potty training efforts with Naomi skipped the following things:
1. Cute Potty Seat
My husband and I already have one potty seat with very basic/standard design for Naomi. It was one of the compulsory baby items that we bought for our Chinese customary wedding ceremony years ago - part of the customs that hoped a baby would come into the newly weds' arms soon. However, Naomi didn't want to use this potty seat at all.
Nevertheless, we decided not to buy another potty seat for Naomi (re: the cute one and of her preference) because we want to train her to do her business, straight in the toilet. For my husband and me, we didn't want Naomi to be attached to her cute potty seat and make her used to do her business conveniently like in the living room, bed room etc, because one day, we'd still have to train her to get used to the toilet (again) if we were to use this method. We prefer one-time work. To date, this go-straight-to-the-toilet method works fine. Naomi sometimes can climb the toilet seat by herself, without my or my husband's assistance. We wait her does her business until she finishes though.
My husband and I practically don't bribe Naomi to make her do or not do certain things in our daily life. We don't want to turn Naomi into a creature of bribing habit. For potty training efforts - we do, however, reward Naomi with heaps of praises every time she passes urine or motion in the toilet.
3. Fixed Frequency
In the beginning, I followed other people's advice in forcing Naomi to go to toilet every 30 min or 1 hour. This trick didn't work and only created more in-house drama because Naomi just didn't want to go to the toilet if she didn't feel like to nor had no urge to pee/poop. When I forced her to go to the toilet at certain time intervals, she got angry and I, too, got frustrated when she refused to do this. And when she's angry, she tends to pee on her pants and then I would have to mop the floor.
Learning from this experience, these days, I would just ask her if she wants to 'xuxu' or not. If she shakes her head, I take it as a 'no' and I'd just wait until she says 'xuxu' and goes to the toilet herself. I'd then follow her to the toilet. I guess things are now much easier when I take her lead on when to go or not to go to the loo.
Another milestone achieved!
The only thing lacking now is that Naomi is still not able to differentiate pooping and peeing - she refers both as "xuxu". I need to ask her teachers how they say pooping in the school - just to make the learning effort consistent.
In conclusion, potty training a toddler does take energy, patience and time - these ain't myths. Just persevere and be patient. Also, try to be consistent with your parenting or in this case, potty training, style that you think is best/comfortable for you and don't force your kiddo too much when it comes to toilet training. In addition, I think potty training doesn't have to be stressful, especially since each child is different.
I have now learned my lesson. Haha.