Saturday, February 14, 2009

Baby-Faced Father

In the midst of the deep discussions and heavy debates, both online and face-to-face, among my Indonesian fellows in Singapore (http://www.indoprof.com/IndonesiaThinking/tabid/91/EntryID/109/Default.aspx) on 'Why there are growing numbers of 'old-enough-to-get-married' single populations in big cities' and 'How to find the One'; this article shows a totally reversed situation where love and lust happened way too early, with fatal consequences.


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U.K. Boy Becomes Father at 13, Newspaper Says
Baby-faced and only 4 feet tall, he was 12 when he impregnated girl, 14Updated 3:57 p.m. ET Feb. 13, 2009

LONDON - He's 13. He scarcely looks 10. And according to a British tabloid, he's a father.
Baby-faced and only 4 feet tall, the boy, Alfie Patten, was just 12 when he impregnated Chantelle, now 15, The Sun reported Friday. Shown in a video posted Friday on the tabloid's Web site, the diminutive Alfie takes the newborn girl in his arms.
Asked what he would do to support the child financially, Alfie asks in a small, high-pitched voice, "What's financially?"
The girl was taking birth control pills but missed one, the newspaper reported. Friends and relatives left the family home near Eastbourne, about 70 miles southeast of London, Friday without speaking to reporters gathered outside. The teenagers could not immediately be contacted.
The Sun did not say whether any tests were conducted to prove the boy's paternity. The paper did not offer any immediate comment when asked whether it had paid the family for the story.
Police and child services in Eastbourne, in southeast England, said in a statement that they were "aware of a 14-year-old girl that had become pregnant as the result of a relationship with a 12-year-old boy," adding that they were offering support to both young people.
In 1999 then-Prime Minister Tony Blair described Britain's record on pregnancies as shameful and vowed to turn it around.
"Put simply, you are still a child when you are 14 and, in a civilized society, children should not be having children," he said at the time. The government has since poured millions of pounds (dollars) into advertising and educational campaigns.
'We made a mistake'
Chantelle and Alfie have reportedly pledged to raise the child as best they can.
"We know we made a mistake but I wouldn't change it now," Chantelle was quoted by The Sun as saying.
Alfie's father, Dennis — who reportedly has nine children — said his son told him it was the first time he had sex. He was reportedly allowed to sleep over at the girl's house.
"It hasn't really dawned on him," Patten, 45, was quoted as saying in the paper.
"I will talk to him again and it will be the birds and bees talk," he said. "Some may say it's too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby."
Britain's youngest-known father was said to be a 12-year-old boy in a suburb north of London who impregnated a young neighbor in 1998.
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Isn't this scary? Kids who don't know much about life already know how to ruin their lives at such a young age. These days, children, not even yet eligible to be referred as teenagers, already know how to make children exactly when they have just hit the legal age of puberty. Children are not supposed to have children, just yet. They don't know what they are doing.


One example, this story shows how the responsible person who doesn't even know anything about finance, now has to raise a baby, which involves heck lots of money. This boy is still struggling with his algebra and calculus home works and exams on daily basis, and now he is supposed to finance a baby. How can this be? And this is only the beginning, he has no idea how complex it is to raise a human being where he himself is still raised by his parents.


This boy probably has not even reached the chapter that discusses Human Reproduction in his Biology class and now he has found 'barely' a woman and already procreated. Who is it to blame then? Parents or the surrounding environments? Both, I guess.


The parents should have raised the kids in a more strict and conventional ways. They should have not exposed the kids to or at least limit their exposures to any sexual materials, which may suggest and lead to actual sexual behaviors. They should have not let the boy to sleep over at the girl's, in the first place. In this case, schools indeed play key roles in educating young students about sex and its consequences, if done carelessly.


This is exactly what happens when parents start to overlook their children's circle of friends and well-beings; they are jeopardizing their children's lives, for good.


Today's pop culture is indeed scary.

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